Danger Assessment

Each situation of intimate partner violence is different and there are no true indicators that will point to the fact that the violence will occur again, or how severe. However, there are indicators that increase the likelihood that you may be in danger.

Note: Even if there are few indicators present, this does not mean that you are safe. You are your own best judge as to whether or not you feel safe.

Ask Yourself:

(On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest)

How dangerous do you think your partner is?           

How safe do you feel?           

Other Questions to Ask yourself:

Has the frequency of the abuse increased? (Is it happening more often?)           

Has the severity of the abuse increased? (Are the injuries getting worse?)           

Does your partner use drugs or alcohol?           

Is your partner obsessive? (Is he/she very controlling?)           

Do you feel isolated (or does your partner restrict who you can have contact with)?           

Are there, or has there ever been, weapons involved?           

Does your partner suffer from mental illness (suicidal or strange behaviors)?           

Is there sexual abuse involved?           

Is the abuser abusive to the children?           

Are you pregnant, or has your partner abused you while you were pregnant?           

Abuse does not always have to manifest itself into physical behavior in order for it to be harmful. Below are some indicators of Non-Physical Indicators of Abuse.

Non-Physical Indicators of Abuse:

My partner screams and yells at me.           

My partner insults or shames me in front of others.           

My partner does not respect my feelings.           

My partner frightens me.           

My partner demands obedience to their orders.           

My partner does not allow me to have friends of the opposite sex (or same sex if appropriate).           

My partner demands that I stay home, or follows me when I go out.           

My partner demands sex, whether I want it or not.           

My partner is controlling with money.           


Regardless of how dangerous the situation appears, a safety plan is an important piece of information that can help you think about how to keep yourself safe. In developing a safety plan, it is important to consider some of the following suggestions — Go to Safety Planning page